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Consider First -
Has your child/teen believed in the Lord Jesus as their Savior?
  • A person can be "pure" in outward actions and still on their way to Hell. 
  • A person without the Spirit of God cannot understand/accept the things of God (1 Cor 2:14). 
  • A person who is not born again, will not have the power of the Holy Spirit to do right. 
  • Following a list of rules to "right living" will not bring about salvation. 
If your child/teen has not believed in Jesus as their Savior, consider making that your prayer and instruction focus first.

"...Until a man is born again what Jesus says [about purity] does not mean anything to him...Our Lord's teaching [on purity] can be interpreted only by the new Spirit which He puts in; it can never be taken as a series of rules and regulation." (Oswald Chambers*)

The Right Mindset

"No man can make himself pure by obeying laws.
​Purity is not a question of doing things rightly,
​but of the doer on the inside being right."
(Oswald Chambers*)
What Purity Resources are NOT
What Purity Resources ARE
  • Regulations to be obeyed through grit and determination (our flesh)
  • A list of rules
  • A "to-do" list to check off
  • A way to be a "good Christian"
  • A guarantee of marriage and a fairy-tale ending
  • A workbook or assignment to give your kids and teens
  • A savior
  • To encourage young people to: glorify God (1 Cor 10:31), become more like Christ (Rom 8:29), and to love him fully (Matt 22:37-38).
  • To point us back to Christ because we cannot be pure on our own.
  • ​To explain what God's ways are when it comes to manhood, womanhood, relationships, etc. 
  • Tools to help young people joyfully and purposefully live out the gift of singleness according to God's purpose, and prepare for the gift of marriage if that is His will. 
  • A time of mentorship, discipling, and bonding between kids, teens, and their parents/family.
THoughts from a Mom on Discipling Children/Teens in this area
1. As parents, purposefully evaluate your goals for this topic through the eyes of the Bible...not your own beliefs, experiences, culture, or current views. This planning needs to be done first, out of ears of the children, so that Mother and Father have the same goals.

2. Begin age-appropriate discussions on this topic early (actually from 2 yrs on)...in purposeful conversations and during daily life activities.  Discussion topics could include:
  • God created everything, therefore He sets the rules. It is His world.
  • God created everything in the world, (including us)  to glorify Him. This is our overall purpose in life.
  • God is love.  He defines and is the example of love.
  • How are they glorifying God in manhood, womanhood, relationships, etc.? (This reminds them of their ultimate purpose in life.)
  • Differences between girls and boys and validating their God-given design as a boy or girl, including RESPONSIBILITIES, CAPABILITIES, and LIMITATIONS a girl or boy. This type of discussion helps confirm who God designed them to be.
  •  Guidance and discussions ahead of time as to how a girl and a boy would show self-control and good character as they are growing up. Each stage has different issues of self-control and desires. Ultimately they all involve a surrender of our will; what we may selfishly want vs. God's better plan for us.   
  • What they see and hear in life, in light of your family goals for manhood, womanhood, relationships, etc.

3. As parents, review and evaluate your plan and fruits of it as your children grow. Give yourselves time to discuss what you are observing about your child, physically and spiritually.  Pray regularly for and with your child and yourselves:
  • For wisdom from His Word.
  • For protection from wrong thoughts . "We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ." (2 Cor 10:5)
  • For a fear of God alone and a desire to seek only the honor of the one true God rather than man (John 5:44).

Books

Young Readers
  • *The Princess and the Kiss + Life's Lesson Study Guide by Jennie Bishop - A story of God's gift of purity for girls.
  • *The Squire and the Scroll + Life's Lesson Study Guide by Jennie Bishop - A tale of the rewards of a pure heart for boys.
  • ​The Garden Wall by Jennie Bishop - A story of love based on 1 Corinthians 13
The Princess and the Kiss - Event Idea
  • Have a Princess Day with your daughter or girls group.
  • Have the girl(s) dress up in their best dress or princess costume.
  • Decorate a room like a wedding with white draped material, flowers, streamers, etc.
  • Present each girl with a little crystal tiara (can get at a party store) to wear. 
  • Have the "story-teller" dressed in a white wedding dress, sitting with her long train in the room, and read to the girl(s) The Princess and the Kiss book.
  • Decorate, during your time, little boxes with jewels, glitter, paint, and ribbons for the "Promise Cards" from the story. Encourage the girl(s) to read one "Promise Card" each day to remember God's love, design, purpose, and promises.
  • Fancy tea time with mom(s) to learn good manners with cake, punch, etc. 
  • Father says goodbye to the girl(s) by saying something like "Go now, remembering God created you to be a special princess in His family."
The Squire and the Scroll - Event Idea
  • Have a Squire Day with your son or boys group.
  • Dads have army-type drills of skill and attentiveness following orders.
  • Skill drills like climbing something, races, teamwork, etc. 
  • Father reads the book, The Squire and the Scroll, and then talks about the character of the young man in the story and how that relates to them. 
  • Carve a verse from the book on a block of wood to take home.


Older Readers 
For Girls
For Boys​
Parents


​Courses/Conferences/Studies/Curriculum 

For Girls
For Boys
For Boys/Men or Girls/Women
  • Passport to Purity from Family Life - A kit for parents to do with their preteens.
  • Tomorrow's Forefathers - Periodic conferences for young men and young ladies.
  • Journey to the Heart Retreat - 1 week retreat for young ladies or young men to take a journey to the their heart with the Lord to grow in their relationship with the Lord and root out any negative heart issues.
  • Whatever it Takes Conferences -
    • For Men ("To help men break free from strongholds and addictions (pornography and other sexual addictions, drug addictions, alcoholism, hypocrisy & lying, etc.), as well as learn to walk in freedom from past failures.")
    • For Women ("To leads women through the steps of how to release those who have wounded them and truly walk in forgiveness")
    • For Singles (" To help them identify the areas of their life that need God’s wisdom and understanding applied to them. Not only will it prepare them for marriage, but it will prepare them for Life!")
  • Raising Real Men Blog - Surviving, Teaching, and Appreciating Boys

Scripture to Memorize


​Ministries


​Audio
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​*All Oswald Chambers quotes are taken from the book "Studies in the Sermon on the Mount"
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